To all the dads,
With Father's Day right around the corner, it feels even more important to give you a little love. While this blog serves as mama empowerment, we see you. Sometimes we're so consumed by the heavy load that we carry as a mom that we forget it takes two to tango and that we wouldn't have these little miracles without you (even if it all started with a back rub lol) You're the only one who is up and sees us at 3am with a crying newborn. Or with a teething toddler who needs another story. You get how hard it is adding a new roommate to the picture or even when you're adding another to your team (or even going for triple trouble and beyond). You see us and love us even at our absolute rawest moments (and love us even without a bra on- God bless you). You listen and we thank you. You cheer us on and we thank you. Please keep telling us we're beautiful even when we roll our eyes and that you're there for us. Please keep asking how we are... it goes further than you know. You play such a huge role in parenting and we couldn't do this without you.
I lost my dad to esophageal cancer in 2016. He was diagnosed with in April 2016 and died that October. Almost 4 years later... still seems like yesterday. When you lose someone so special to you, your heart never really recovers. You go on living your life hoping that everything you do makes them proud but it's forever an empty void. You question meaning in your life and why things happen and there's no real explanation and then you're just expected to "accept" it. It's a hard reality to face even still, life can be so unfair. Of course I don't remember my dad being up with me at 3am when I was a newborn, but the bond that we formed after 27 years is a huge piece of my heart. So poppa bear- when you think you may not be forming the bond quite like mama, you are.
When we got pregnant it was almost a year and a half after my dad had passed, of course we had to find out what the gender of our little babe was and sure enough- it was a GIRL! I told the story of "Eleanor" a few posts back... but as a name we loved and talked about while he was alive... we wondered if he sent her to us more so to show J.R. the love between a father and a daughter... and he sure showed him.
While I still feel like mom's NEVER get enough credit for how bad ass we are, I think we too forget how critical the role of dad really is. For me, it is so many things. J.R. is the glue in our little trio. I truly feel like Eleanor hit the jackpot! J.R. is selfless above all. He's kind and even tempered and grounded. During my pregnancy, he carried the weight as much as I did and now with our new roomie; J.R. is all those things and more as a dad.
To the single dads- you're amazing. I think of my friend Steven D'Achille often. A dad who tragically lost his beautiful wife but raises his sweet Adriana with his whole heart. We believe nothing is sweeter than seeing the love you can give to such a little person, at every age and it's absolutely amazing. You are just that, don't ever forget it. Mom's everywhere are grateful for YOU.
And to the moms- when Dad didn't step up, You're more of a Bad Ass then we can ever imagine. Treat today like it's your very own. After all, you are playing both parts!
J.R., Thank you. For being a piece of me I could never live without. Thank you for being Eleanor's daddy and loving your girls with your whole heart. You're everything in every way. We love you.
Happy Monday friends and early Father's day poppa bear. See you next time.